The In-Between of Life: How To Find Yourself Again

There’s a space no one talks about enough.

The in-between.

It’s not the beginning or the end. It’s the raw, empty middle—where life has upended everything you thought you knew. Maybe it came as a divorce, a job loss, a move, a death, a moment that gut-punched you without warning and left you gasping for clarity that refuses to come.

This space is quiet, but not peaceful. It’s loud with thoughts. It’s the ache of a question you can’t quite ask and the answer you can't find the words for.

And it’s lonely.

The “in-between” is when you wake up and wonder what the point is. You scroll social media hoping for something to make sense—but the motivational quotes fall flat. The self-help books speak a language that doesn’t feel like yours. Even the voices of coaches, experts, mentors—those who say they’ve been here—don’t seem to understand what you’re actually feeling.

Because what you’re feeling isn’t just sadness or confusion. It’s identity loss. It’s grief. It’s being buried under your own skin. It’s questioning everything you used to hold onto. The tools that once helped—routine, control, people-pleasing, busyness—no longer work. And yet you cling to them, because they’re familiar. Because doing something feels safer than doing nothing.

But what if doing nothing isn’t a failure?

What if the pause is the path?

The Dark Night of the Soul

What you are experiencing is often called the dark night of the soul—a period of deep emotional reckoning, internal collapse, and spiritual unraveling. It’s not a trendy phrase. It’s a sacred passage. One that strips away what no longer belongs to you—not to punish, but to prepare.

The dark night of the soul is the death of who you thought you had to be... so you can finally meet the woman you truly are.

The Purpose of the In-Between

The in-between is not a punishment. It’s not a mistake. It’s not a detour.

It is the sacred ground of becoming.

It is where the woman you were is unraveling—thread by thread—not because she was wrong or broken, but because her time has passed. And the woman you're becoming needs space. She needs room to emerge without the weight of old stories, habits, and expectations.

But to reach her, you must stay in the in-between long enough to understand why it matters.

This space asks you to stop running. To stop fixing. To stop proving. To stop rushing to recreate a life based on beliefs that were never fully yours to begin with.

This is the invitation. To feel instead of figure out. To observe instead of obsess. To surrender instead of strive.

What You Can Do in the In-Between

• Honor the Pause Let yourself slow down. Stop measuring your days by productivity. You are still worthy even when all you can do is breathe. Rest is not giving up—it’s gathering strength.

  
  

• Grieve the Old You The version of you that once held everything together deserves your gratitude and your grace. But it’s okay to say goodbye. You are allowed to let go of who you were, even if you don't yet know who you are becoming.

  
  

• Notice the Habits You Cling To Begin to gently ask: – Why do I always react this way? – Who taught me that this was how I had to be? – Does this still feel like me? Awareness is the first act of reclaiming. You don’t have to fix everything right now. You just have to notice.

  
  

• Reconnect with Your Body When your mind feels chaotic, your body can ground you. Move. Walk. Cry. Stretch. Breathe. Your body holds ancient wisdom. It knows when you’re holding on to what’s no longer yours.

  
  

• Let Stillness Be Your Teacher You are not lost. You are in a chrysalis. And like the caterpillar, it is meant to feel like death before the wings come.

How To Find Yourself Again Starts Here

You may not see it now, but this dark night—this in-between—holds the first sparks of your return.

Finding yourself again isn’t about going backward. It’s about stripping away what was never really you to begin with. The people-pleasing. The overdoing. The self-doubt. The comparison. The belief that your worth is tied to your usefulness or perfection.

Finding yourself again means allowing your truth to rise. To slowly take shape in this open, expansive space where nothing is defined yet—and that’s the beauty of it.

Before You Declare a New Future…

Don’t rush to rebuild with broken bricks.

The world will try to hurry you. Tell you to reinvent. Start fresh. Hustle forward.

But this space? This silence? This sacred in-between?

It’s asking you to listen.

What do you need—not the version of you molded by roles, trauma, expectation, or survival—but the woman underneath it all?

This is your chance to build a life rooted in intention. Not in fear. Not in pattern. Not in pressure.

Wait until you know.

Wait until your voice, however faint, starts to whisper again. Wait until your no’s feel strong and your yes’s feel

true. Wait until your boundaries no longer feel like guilt, but like grace.

The In-Between Is the Becoming

You are not failing. You are forming.

You are not broken. You are breaking open.

This isn’t the end. It’s the echo before your new beginning.

The breath before the words come. The darkness before the dawn.

So, if you are here—in this aching, quiet space—I want you to know:

You are not alone. You are not behind. And you are not forgotten.

You are being remade.

Not into someone new.

But into someone true.

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